Yes! You’ve been dumped, and everybody knows it… your neighbour knows it, your mom knows it, your best friend knows it, your best friend of your best friend seems to know it too… What the heck??!…even your dog knows it!! It hurts, and it sucks. Like really sucks. What is it to be done in this moment? Well…you could get drunk, you could put it on Facebook, change immediately your status there as “single and available”, but secretly start stalking the person who did that to you, and watch their profile all day long. Or you could listen a lot of depressive music.
None of these methods will bring them back, but who the hell cares? It’s part of the process anyway. And it’s been like what? One week, two, a month, six, 2 years and you still can’t forget your ex? No? Even more? 10? Ooo that’s a God damn proof of how fucked up love might get you. If it goes on the wrong path, wrong nerve, wrong direction, as long as you don’t see the red lights and keep on driving on this road, my friend, let me tell you, YOU ARE GOING TO HELL!!
And it is not going to be an easy journey! Does it worth the pain, the struggle, the feeling of emptiness, of loneliness, the desperation, the need of just seeing, hearing the loved one at least one more time? The burning fire of your body begging for one more touch? One more kiss? Hmm… have no idea. I’d say that it’s a pain which seems to drive people crazy. Of that, I am sure! So what’s the point? Well…it depends on the side effects. Did you create something nice, beautiful, a masterpiece out of your pain? Did you become self-destructive? Or did you start to punish everybody else for the story you had with the other creature belonging to this planet?
Been there (MANY TIMES), done that and for me there have been always two ways to deal with the pain of losing the one I loved. One was expressing what I felt. Diving deep into the shit, knowing that one day it will be just another love story I am going to tell to my nephews. And it was ok. It was a good therapy for a long term. I seem wiser now…more careful with my choices, more intelligent from emotional point of view. But I had no orgasm while I did that… no sparkle… no butterflies in my stomach… no action…no nothing… don’t get me wrong! Reflecting and meditation are quite a good way to heal your wounded soul, but in my case, that makes me quite horny. The meditation, I mean…
And here is the tricky thing. Even if you feel the need to share your wounded feelings with the person who just dumped you, don’t do it! Trust me on that! It’s not the right way! And not because you are pathetic by doing that. You are. But that’s not the point. The problem is that the other one might start wondering if something is not wrong with you, so you might scare them off. And each time you see them by coincidence, I don’t know… somewhere in a public place, they will just make big eyes, they will seem to smile, being glad to see you, but actually trying in their mind to see which is the nearest way to escape and run as fast as they can the hell out of there. So…you might not wanna do that.
On the other hand, on a short term you might need a better way to heal yourself. You need something which numbs your feelings and helps you to forget the other one. A method to help you to move on. The good news? There is another way. There is always another way! And men know it better than women. They know it by instinct. Our instincts are maybe not so sharp in this area like theirs, but we for sure have it inside it too.
In my case, this method ALWAYS worked. Efficiency 100%…in fact, no…130% Because sometimes I had unpredictable satisfaction. So…which is the name of this method?
Three letters, my dear reader: SEX. Get LAID! Fuck someone’s brains out and let them fuck yours. But choose carefully the person for that kind of game. Choose exactly what you like and not randomly, because otherwise you might have the opposite effect. To feel like shit afterward.
But sex done in a proper way, with the right person, HEALS.
Passionate, wild, animal, hot sex. That kind of sex that brings you on the edge. Orgasm and its power of healing could do miracles to your wounded heart if you do it in the right way. But remember: do it when you are ready though!
Stop counting the steps to the door of your ex’s heart, but start the chasing…go out there, in the jungle and just…do it! Easy to say, sometimes hard to do it, but its worth it. Choose carefully your rebounds, make sure that they vibe in the same way as you do and just let yourself go. The effect is incredible, and it does heal you, even if… a part of yourself maybe will always love that one, THE OTHER ONE… love them, miss them, but that’s it!
Until you find ANOTHER ONE, just get laid! Enjoy the positive effects of sex, enjoy and discover your body. And his…or …hers… Just, don’t get laid with your ex…no, no, bad idea! Worst idea ever! You’ll be tempted! But don’t do it. Don’t slip on the wrong path again! Respect these basic rules and as long as you’ll do this, you won’t regret it, I’m sure!
Good luck! 🙂