BREAKING NEWS! Tonight is the BREAKING NEWS evening… coming straight from a CEE (Central European East) woman… a woman which basically should have never said what I am about to say, but she is going to say it anyway… a woman with strong believes about love, relationships, marriage, with tradition in her blood will tell you a big secret.
So… ladies and gentlemen, dear playboys or any other person who happens to cross my blog and read these lines: SHOCKING NEWS as this might be, I must unfortunately break a myth that all contemporary men seem to still believe it: DUDES, THERE IS NO NEED ANYMORE TO LIVE IN FEAR AND A CONSTANT “SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO” PHASE!
No need for lame excuses after getting laid and feeling the sudden need to run. No need for the cold shoulder or the passive aggressiveness meant to let us know you don’t wanna see us anymore since you are afraid not to be caught in a relationship over night. NO DUDES! RELAX!! WOMEN LIKE ME ARE ALSO AFRAID OF COMMITMENT!! Just like you!
Tadaaaaa! Isn’t that great news??
I am personally frightened till the last cell of my body that I might be doing the same mistake I did once. Blocking myself in a relationship with a man who I find at the beginning wonderful and then later to see that actually, the shoe doesn’t fit anymore… And honestly, looking at this jungle that I am in today, I must say that I am in no hurry to make a rush decision in this area. What can I say? I have my weakneasses.
You might find this as a surprise, but we don’t want so desperately and fast to be in a relationship as you guys might think. We don’t want to hurry home after 10 hours of intense, stressful work just to cook a nice meal for you and make sure your belly is safe , then take care of our child too, putting him to bed, then to eventually give you a foot massage and in the end to be ready for a hot, stormy sex with you. God no!!! We are sick and tired to still do things in this order! We realized that life is too short to please everybody else but us. I personally changed my priorities and one of those was to be happy. I didn’t know how to be happy. I swear I didn’t.
Now I am busy being happy. Extremely busy and when I forget to do that and let myself caught in the daily routine of life, what do you know? I always get sick or something as if the Universe is reminding me that I forgot about me. What do we want now from you guys? Till we reach that point when we can touch this topic about relationship again?
FUN! To have FUN and not to have to deal with daily shit. We have kids. We have full time jobs. And we love that! But we don’t wanna settle from the first time we had sex with you. Even if we become emotional afterward and we feel the need to see you again (if the release of energy between us was great, of course!), even if we are a bit clingy afterward that doesn’t mean you guys passed the relationship test. Don’t be so cocky! That means we are still women and ruled by Venus. But we don’t wanna marry you after just having horny sex with you!
Yes…we are great! We can be mothers full time, we can have full time jobs, we are independent, funny, sexy and amazing. Wow! We have the perfect profile for a long term relationship. If we decide that this is what we want, we can get it. But we did not decide. We look at you guys and after spending wonderful time with you, we think that the idea of being with you might not be so bad after all, but then we remind ourselves how selfish you guys might be once you get in a relationship.
How basic it all becomes: money, food, sleep and if you are lucky enough some sex too. No more fun! No more funny conversations. No more hot sex and exciting messages. Just… a job instead of a relationship. Another job. The third one. So yeah… we fear! To choose the wrong job. Just like you! Actually, you are the only reason we fear. Isn’t that great news? You inspire us.
You want us, the “STRONG, INDEPENDENT” woman to follow you? To “obey” and not to treat you as sexual objects anymore? You wanna be our leaders? Well… you are…you don’t even realize it…but you are… in fear! We just follow you in your fear as much as you used to follow us once in love… so… you choose what your future with us will be… if any… if not… well, it sucks, but we will survive! You are THE MAN!
As for us, wanted or not, we learned how to be happy! With or without you… and now we have our shelters too… isn’t that just perfect for you or what? 🙂