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benefits, breakup, childish, connection, development, flirt, friendship, game, Goodbye, Hello, life, love, prelude, seduction
It starts with a flirt….More or less, everybody flirted at some point with somebody…a smile, a certain body language that says “I like you”, a specific look in the eyes of potential lovers who meet and they make the “connection”…those sweet few moments from the beginning….I love it! So pure, so simple, so not guilty and why not?! so childish…..sometimes you might not recognize the signs, or you are even too afraid to pay attention to those, but for sure the potential partner, being more initiated than you, will introduce you in the seduction game…
Flirting is part of our lives…we all do it…it’s part of us….sometimes we do it out of curiosity, sometimes without even realizing it, other times just for fun, for the pleasure of teasing the other one, but also for the need of confirming that we still know the rules of the game…
Sometimes you like the game so much and you enjoy each level, that maybe out of curiosity you want to make a step further…and start a friendship (with or without “benefits” ) to get to know each other better…then you grow in love and then you want to try a relationship…but suddenly the rules of the game complicate so much that you realize one thing: in order to function, to survive, to have a true partnership, love would never be enough…love was the way to live those happy moments that brought light and life into your soul….how come now pure, sweet love would not be enough?!…You love each other so much! What’s missing? In the end no matter which are the reasons, sometimes breaking up is inevitable…
Most of the breakups finish with a psychological war because of wounded egos and wounded souls…how fast we forget that out of nothing we “made love” by creating an unique connection between two souls and bodies that they were meant to travel together for a while, to learn some lessons, to grow up together! How easy we remain stuck in that negative feeling and need of revenge….cause that is the only thing that it confirms to us that everything we felt, we had was real!
So much pain would vanish faster if only we knew how to live and enjoy the last sweet seduction moment…that should end with a warm hug and a smile, and maybe few tears in the corner of your eye, not of sadness, but because of being grateful to the Universe that the other one made part of your life, of yourself…even if just for a while…
Sometimes the precious moment of taking Goodbye! could bring more in our personal development than even the first Hello!
LoveHeimer 
Beautiful. But is it really as easy to smile while bidding goodbye? Though it might be the right thing for we then part not in bitterness but in gratefulness as you say, but dont u think its quite an utopia to hope for?
You are right! It is hard to reach this level of emotional intelligence and spiritual view upon a breakup…especially because in my view, in love we tend to be more possessive, selfish, with higher expectations than in any other “field”…I’ve been there as a warrior..I fought hard, and I expressed my pain of losing the partner in any way that came into my soul, my mind, my body…I was so young and I lost so much time and positive energy by doing that!!! But I’ve been also in the position to wait for forgiveness and understanding for my decision to leave…I didn’t get them, unfortunately…a man’s ego could be so sharp that keeping the feelings of love, tenderness, and care about the other one, even after the breakup could be felt like “intruders” in his soul and those need definitely to be smashed, get rid of them…Still, I’ve been patient, I tried to understand the reactions, the pain, I’ve stood there (sometimes smiling, sometimes crying), in the storm just waiting for the other one to heal…it was a surprise for me to see that by choosing this way, I gained positive energy, I developed from emotional point of view extremely fast, I grew up so nice, so beautiful that even if sometimes I had the feeling that his own pain and negative energy would smash me, and my body would just crush, I learned that “nihil fit sine causa”= nothing happens without a reason on this planet…sometimes souls are meant to travel together and who knows?!…maybe exactly because of knowing how to say “Goodbye”, after you’ve been apart and have lived different experiences that could not be lived together, you might find the way back”Home” (to him/to her) much easier, more natural and stronger than the first time….Thank you for your comment! 🙂
well, still analyzing 🙂 …. congrats for your job.
ben